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Post by Deleted on Aug 17, 2014 19:14:08 GMT -5
Hopefully cause that's the only reason why my dad thinks that it won't be a good career path for me.
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Post by The Sandmen on Aug 17, 2014 22:07:15 GMT -5
Just try to remember and internalize the idea that it's better to put yourself out there and be remembered as a fool than to not be forgotten entirely. Ya only live once, and what people think of you literally means nothing in the grand scheme of things. Those who matter will remember you for the right reasons, and those who don't matter, well, who gives a fuck?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2014 5:49:00 GMT -5
See that's the problem with my shyness. Before the bullying started I could sing in front of anybody or act without fright. But after the bullying whenever I try to I feel like people are judging me.
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Post by The Rocketmen on Aug 18, 2014 7:11:45 GMT -5
There's a few ways to cope with that anxiety:
1. Do it with comedy, that way if people laugh, you can make yourself feel like you made people laugh. If some people laugh at you, that's fine, they are dicks. People mock other people out of jealousy.
2. The nerves with singing in front of people can go away if you exude some confidence. Understand that it's you who is talented enough to do something in front of people, and thus you have their attention. You're in a position of command so take control.
3. If your introverted nature is keeping you from things you love, then specifically go and do things that will challenge that. Consider it training for your esteem. Ways to do this is when with friends, take something like a magazine (Cosmos has some great articles) and read them (as a male) to explain to your friends how to please their man. It's weird and different, but it's also engaging and has you addressing people in a speech-type setting.
4. Remember that most projects have a team oriented aspect like acting, singing with a band or other singers, etc. It's never JUST you. It's you and those around you or those supporting you. Even if you stand alone doing something, it's the people who are paying attention that are on your side as well. Never alone.
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Post by The Sandmen on Aug 18, 2014 8:47:29 GMT -5
Yeah, a lot of what Rocketmen said helped me.
For instance, I always HATED presentations and speeches. HATED THEM. Being shy, they were hell. But in university, I started changing how I did presentations. I started planning them to be fun or funny or interesting TO ME before hand, and I found that when I was doing that, it became a lot easier during the actual presentation to feel comfortable, confident, and relaxed. In turn, the audience was more receptive, becuase I was doing things either different, or funny, or interactive, or interesting. Not just a bland powerpoint and droning on. I am still not amazing at these, but that coping strategy, of JUST trying to entertain myself helped me get confidence for the act of presenting, and now I don't feel any where near as shy or anxious when I have to do presentations or speeches.
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Post by xx - Team GAP on Aug 18, 2014 9:14:31 GMT -5
i still hate doing presentations... cause schools don't let you do the presentations drunk.
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Post by The Sandmen on Aug 18, 2014 9:21:46 GMT -5
I did a presentation on no sleep once. I had started to bank on NOT having notes, and letting a lot of my information free-flow naturally. For the first time, i kept drawing complete blanks about what i meant to say and it was a HORRIBLE presentation. Still got like, 82 on it but it was bad, objectively speaking.
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Post by xx - Team GAP on Aug 18, 2014 9:23:59 GMT -5
i did a book report where i didn't read the book but it was an obscure book so nobody caught on.
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Post by The Sandmen on Aug 18, 2014 9:30:43 GMT -5
Hahaha I did so many of those. I also often did them on books everyone read that I didn't. In University, Mike would get mad cause he would read everything, write a paper on all of the info, get an 80, I would read half of it, write a paper on 7% of it, get an 85.  |
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Post by xx - Team GAP on Aug 18, 2014 9:32:06 GMT -5
HAHAHA classic!!!
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Post by The Rocketmen on Aug 18, 2014 11:55:57 GMT -5
I learned a lot from that and applied it to some of my history papers where the topic was selected for me. I hated those types of papers. It didn't allow me to investigate or study aspects of history that I was intrigued by. So I just skimmed through academic journals to find sentences that sort of said what I wanted them to say, used it, boom, one citation. Next.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2014 13:17:51 GMT -5
If your introverted nature is keeping you from things you love, then specifically go and do things that will challenge that. Consider it training for your esteem. Ways to do this is when with friends, take something like a magazine (Cosmos has some great articles) and read them (as a male) to explain to your friends how to please their man. It's weird and different, but it's also engaging and has you addressing people in a speech-type setting. I tried fighting my stage fright by auditioning for a musical that was going on in my school. I got good receptions after I was done singing but when I had to start acting I forgot the lines so I had to look at my sheet with the lines on it. I looked up once to see the audience and just started shaking. My hand went into a tantrum and all the audience could see was the paper in my hand shaking like crazy. I then took drama in highschool to get over my stage fright with acting but it didnt help. |
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Post by The Rocketmen on Aug 18, 2014 13:23:53 GMT -5
I took drama as well, and it takes a while to go away. Unless you completely invest yourself into the character, it can be challenging.
One thing I just do naturally is many characters. Like, I am maybe six different variants of myself (even have different voices for each person I am in a day) and if there's something I may think is moderately difficult for myself to do, I'll do it as one of my other personalities, and know that if something goes wrong, it's the personality's fault and not my own.
I feel crazy saying that I do that, but I do. My characters even have names, though most of them are like sketch character voices I've done on films with Justin, but I really do become these characters.
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Post by xx - Former Phoenix Fight Club on Aug 18, 2014 13:34:52 GMT -5
If your introverted nature is keeping you from things you love, then specifically go and do things that will challenge that. Consider it training for your esteem. Ways to do this is when with friends, take something like a magazine (Cosmos has some great articles) and read them (as a male) to explain to your friends how to please their man. It's weird and different, but it's also engaging and has you addressing people in a speech-type setting. I tried fighting my stage fright by auditioning for a musical that was going on in my school. I got good receptions after I was done singing but when I had to start acting I forgot the lines so I had to look at my sheet with the lines on it. I looked up once to see the audience and just started shaking. My hand went into a tantrum and all the audience could see was the paper in my hand shaking like crazy. I then took drama in highschool to get over my stage fright with acting but it didnt help. I've got a hand tremor too man. It's not uncommon. And having to check your lines isn't a bad thing when auditioning either... that's why they give you the script in the first place.  lol But I had a couple of instances in my acting classes during our mock auditions where the auditioner asked if I was nervous because of my hand tremor and the paper was fluttering around and I wasn't nervous at all, I was just get so intent on doing it right that it makes the tremor more intense sometimes. You just gotta keep plugging at it and not worry so much about what folks think, especially in the acting realm. It's a fickle and judgmental field, but the fact is that just because they didn't like what you did for that particular audition, means absolutely shit all cuz something you did might trigger their memory for something else later and you'll get that part. You just have to have the confidence and belief that you put your best of your interpretation on it and let them decide whether it was right for their vision of the part or not and remember that there's never really a wrong answer when it comes to any performance art whether it be acting, music or public speaking of some sort. Some folks will like it, and some won't... that's just the nature of the beast. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2014 13:35:27 GMT -5
See I'd feel like people are judging me if I did that.
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lol But I had a couple of instances in my acting classes during our mock auditions where the auditioner asked if I was nervous because of my hand tremor and the paper was fluttering around and I wasn't nervous at all, I was just get so intent on doing it right that it makes the tremor more intense sometimes. You just gotta keep plugging at it and not worry so much about what folks think, especially in the acting realm. It's a fickle and judgmental field, but the fact is that just because they didn't like what you did for that particular audition, means absolutely shit all cuz something you did might trigger their memory for something else later and you'll get that part. You just have to have the confidence and belief that you put your best of your interpretation on it and let them decide whether it was right for their vision of the part or not and remember that there's never really a wrong answer when it comes to any performance art whether it be acting, music or public speaking of some sort. Some folks will like it, and some won't... that's just the nature of the beast.
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